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Live and Let Live

My motto in life has always been ‘live and let live’ and up until recently however I have come to a point where I might need to change this.

A friend of such had come to me with a problem, she had strong feelings for a man who was married with 3 children. My 1st reaction wasn’t at all what she expected. She wanted me to ask her for more details instead I just told her to walk away and never look back.

She didn’t take my advice but pretty much did the exact opposite. This man bought her gifts and told her all that she wanted to hear. I told her that she will never be more then his thing on the side but still the rondevous only increased. I remember she once came over and showed me her new watch. I complemented it and she told he that he also bought one for his wife. I almost choaked on my wine.

I kept telling her this has to stop. She then told me that she was going to ask him to leave his wife. I think this was my breaking point. I had already voiced my opinion but I wanted to be friend at the same time.

I asked her how could she do this to another woman? What if that woman was me? What if he was trying to sort out his marriage but is obviously distracted by a hot twenty something. Why would she even want all this hassle? 3 kids?.. She wasn’t listening…

However I don’t know the ending to this story.. Because I couldn’t bare to talk to her anymore. I stopped answering her texts. Stopped calling. I couldn’t be by her side to support her decision, whatever it might have been. Too much damage was already done. At one point I even started to become paranoid over my own relationship. If this man was buying presents for his wife and for another woman at the same time, who’s to say my man wouldn’t do the same? She made me loose faith. In men, in women, in marriage. It really effected me. I did not want this in my life.image

So how could I have a motto ‘live and let live’? ‘To each his own’? I had to basically delete a person from my life because I couldn’t live and let live anymore..

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2 thoughts on “Live and Let Live

  1. Yep Ive been there on all sides. She will learn the hard way and you did your best. Live & Let live is still what you are doing here. You are living the way you think is right and have left her to live her life the way she chooses. It doesn’t say you have to like the way they live. You didn’t get involved and try to control the situation, you advised her. You didn’t threaten to tell his wife or spread her story to everyone she knows if she didn’t stop. You left her to it. I think you were a good friend and soon enough she will know that and regret her actions and the loss of a friendship. Blessings to you!

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